I’m gay. I’m agender, and I like enbies better than men and women.
The other day in an argument I got frustrated with someone and told them to call me a homophobic slur. One part sarcasm, one part hoping they’d actually do it and get in trouble. Instead, I got punished for using the word. I wasn’t expecting that, because I’m gay. If I call myself a f-----, I didn’t think that was anyone else’s problem.
Was I right? Is it okay for me to use that word, talking about myself?
They out-woked you and now you’re worried about it? Don’t worry about the rules. Main thing is don’t intentionally try to hurt people. If you become aware that something is unintentionally hurting somebody and it’s within reason to stop, you should probably stop. Call yourself whatever you want. Just understand that some people might be offended and at the end of the day it doesn’t matter as long as you’re not going out of your way to hurt people.