And this is why Thomas Was Alone
Good game!
Is this loss?
Reminds me of what I tell my kids. If someone thinks everyone else is the problem, then the real problem is in the mirror
Nothing is that binary. Your response isn’t much better as a training tool. Nuance is important and this concept dangerously toes the line with victim shaming. Really depends on individual situations.
This huge asshole sat on the park bench next to me a few years ago. We got to talking, apparently he was run off the road by this truck while the driver was fuming and flipping him off. Supposedly this left him wheelchair bound for a few months and his wife had him served with divorce papers during physical therapy, then a few weeks later his boss fired him for having a poor attitude. I guess he was between houses or something after that because these cops dragged him off that very park bench we were sitting on at night and hauled him to jail. I tried to tell him that he really needs to stop being so negative, that if he didn’t always complain about stuff and make other peoples lives harder he would probably be happier. I don’t think he is the kind of person to listen though, one of those “the world revolves around me” kind of guys.
Perhaps, but only hearing one side of the story and giving benefit of a doubt, it sounds like someone who had life shit on them a lot in a short period of time and your response was akin to telling women to smile more.
And it only took one comment
More like he knows his audience. Snake oil salesmen know they’re selling garbage.
Could also be that he knows his audience are self-obsessed weirdos and perhaps the books try to gently explain to the reader that they are in fact the problem in most of these situations.
Yep. The colour theory stuff in there makes MBTI and horoscopes look detailed and well-documented in comparison
Yeah, let me guess; you’re a greeny?
disclaimer: I don’t know the colour theory
Hey I just want a simple way to understand myself, others, and my place in the world without having to do any personal introspection.
Fuck, me too. I tried personal introspection and I do not recommend it.
I dot want to talk about myself. That guy is a jerk!
“Yah, well the Jerk Store called and they’re all out of you!”
- George Cantstanzya
For anyone curious, it’s the “DISC assesment”, partly developed by William Moulton Marston. The guy behind the polygraph and Wonder Woman.
It’s based on his obsession with bondage and how he thought it was the solution to a “peaceful human society”:
Dominance: active use of force to overcome resistance in the environment
Inducement: use of charm in order to deal with obstacles
Submission: warm and voluntary acceptance of the need to fulfill a request
Compliance: fearful adjustment to a superior force.
Yeah most reputable assessment developers have long moved away from shit like DiSC and MBTI, they were never grounded in science and just make the average person think ideas like personality are just pure snake oil when they are very complex nuanced topics.
If anyone wants to know about way more valid measures look up HEXACO and take the 60 or 100 item measure if you want to actually get an understanding of your own personality (note anything less than 60 items for a personality test is either not a general test or BS)
I thought I was horny
I did some searching, apparently the four colors represented are things like “Reds think speed limits are for people who don’t know how to drive”, and “Blues think people who don’t read the entire contract before signing are idiots” - which contains kernels of truth; it also says that most people have a selection of traits from at least two colors. So basically it’s just a serious version of “white guys drive like this, but black guys drive like this”
I actually do think speed limits are for people who cant drive… They do annoy me… And I cant do anything about that…
I feel happy when going slightly faster than speed limit. Traffic flows and things are good. But people who drive exactly the speed limit and blocking others, thats incredibly annoying. Usually they stay in the right lane though so I can pass, thank god.
I also dont read the entire contract, I kind of trust its going to be OK, so guess im also an idiot. :)
I worked some place that did something similar, if not this exact thing. We answered a 20 question quiz of "do you do x, or y? Very in-depth, of course.
It’s not an “all or none” situation, but it’s supposed to be used as a guideline about how to best interact with different people. Blue/green would prefer a steady, consistent approach. Red/yellow want things fast and aggressive, etc.
What actually happened was people preening about getting the “good colors” that had traits that the company liked, and then absolutely no change at all in the culture or how we treated people anyway, regardless of results.
It was a complete waste of time, but the execs got big wall sized color charts and pinned everyone’s names to them, so I guess they enjoyed their made up work for a bit.
The one constant in all your failed relationships is you.
Just because you’re alone with your thoughts, it doesn’t mean you’re not surrounded.
Or he lives in a red state.
The titles are correct, the solutions are wrong though.
I had a coworker complain about how everyone is an asshole these days. I asked for an explanation. He said the guy at the laundromat last night was a fucking dick, and so was the server at dinner. Then, the cashier when he bought coffee was an asshole, and so was the bus driver. I asked him what was the one, single unifying factor that tied all those people together…?
I said it then, and I’ll say it again here: Markus, you are the asshole.
It’s like those people who say “I hate drama”, and then you see them going around creating drama. The call is coming from inside the house, Karen.
The number of people I talk to who mindlessly regurgitate the “fact” that “most people are terrible” seems to be going up. Most people don’t act like they think that’s true, but once you really internalize that kind of misanthropy, assuming every interaction will be negative is how you go through the world.
Your assumptions about the world greatly impact how you interact with it, and when you stop looking for anything good, you’ll only see good things when they’re shoved in your face. It’s easy to justify your general malaise because you tell yourself everyone is like that.
I joke around a lot but I want to say something very serious here.
I grew up like that. I assumed everyone was fucking awful and I was proven right time and time again. But one day I started looking for the best in people and it was so fucking hard for a while.
What I learned is that generally I remember whatever it is I’m looking for in people. Once in a while you’ll find several memorable assholes in a row. Once in a while you’ll find several amazing people in a row. But on the whole if I walk out into the world expecting everyone to be awful I’ll find a lot of awful people doing awful shit.
The other thing I learned is that it severely changed the way I interact with others. If I’m expecting all people to be shitty I’m disconnected and dismissive. But if I walk out believing humanity is mostly good with a few bad seeds I tend to be happier, connected, and friendly.
Obviously it’s not as easy as just believing one thing then the other. It’s a struggle to get out once you believe people (in general, or a specific race, or a gender, or folks with certain haircuts) are terrible because that’s all you’ll remember when you get home. You’ll remember a dude at the store was rude and a lady on the street talked shit while completely forgetting that a woman at the store held the door for you because your hands were full and a guy on the street discreetly let you know your fly was down.
Your last sentence fucking nailed it.
Current political discourse certainly doesn’t help either.
Yes, things are going to shit (at least in the US) at speed. Getting upset at some random person (or even a large group) who might believe some dumb shit isn’t going to change anything. The people pulling the strings listen to the money, not to the masses and their beliefs, no matter how righteous or horrendous those beliefs might be.
And even if the people who believed stupid shit were the root cause of all the problems, unless you legitimately plan to eliminate them, you will at some point have to learn to interact with them to move things forward. You can’t just bully Trump voters into submission. They practically get off on that idea that they’re somehow the underdog. And like most people, they’re people. Not horrid monstrous troglodytes 100% through and through.
Can’t remember the last time I had an interaction with a bona fide asshole. Everyone seems to be super nice to me.
My ex on the other hand? Target audience for books like this. She has several books of this style. Everyone’s an asshole to her. Everything is everyone else’s fault. The entire world is out to get her. There’s a reason she’s my ex now.
I suspect fam is also “Surrounded by Unsold Books”.
He is the problem because he has absolutely no idea what he is talking about and all that is pseudoscience.
His book (the idiots one) is displayed upside down and with the book spine toward the wall on my shelf.
did you read it?
yes
That’ll show him!
I shall post what I posted the last time this meme came up here…
Sounds like someone’s made an account on [insert centralized social media site here].
Xitter?
Those are all the same people
Idiot pscycos narcisist… remind you of anyone?!
Imagine that garbage being your life’s work…
Here is a freebie, “Surrounded by haters”
Likely scenario is that he is laughing all the way to the bank.
