Nothing is that binary. Your response isn’t much better as a training tool. Nuance is important and this concept dangerously toes the line with victim shaming. Really depends on individual situations.
This huge asshole sat on the park bench next to me a few years ago. We got to talking, apparently he was run off the road by this truck while the driver was fuming and flipping him off. Supposedly this left him wheelchair bound for a few months and his wife had him served with divorce papers during physical therapy, then a few weeks later his boss fired him for having a poor attitude. I guess he was between houses or something after that because these cops dragged him off that very park bench we were sitting on at night and hauled him to jail. I tried to tell him that he really needs to stop being so negative, that if he didn’t always complain about stuff and make other peoples lives harder he would probably be happier. I don’t think he is the kind of person to listen though, one of those “the world revolves around me” kind of guys.
Perhaps, but only hearing one side of the story and giving benefit of a doubt, it sounds like someone who had life shit on them a lot in a short period of time and your response was akin to telling women to smile more.
Reminds me of what I tell my kids. If someone thinks everyone else is the problem, then the real problem is in the mirror
Nothing is that binary. Your response isn’t much better as a training tool. Nuance is important and this concept dangerously toes the line with victim shaming. Really depends on individual situations.
This huge asshole sat on the park bench next to me a few years ago. We got to talking, apparently he was run off the road by this truck while the driver was fuming and flipping him off. Supposedly this left him wheelchair bound for a few months and his wife had him served with divorce papers during physical therapy, then a few weeks later his boss fired him for having a poor attitude. I guess he was between houses or something after that because these cops dragged him off that very park bench we were sitting on at night and hauled him to jail. I tried to tell him that he really needs to stop being so negative, that if he didn’t always complain about stuff and make other peoples lives harder he would probably be happier. I don’t think he is the kind of person to listen though, one of those “the world revolves around me” kind of guys.
Perhaps, but only hearing one side of the story and giving benefit of a doubt, it sounds like someone who had life shit on them a lot in a short period of time and your response was akin to telling women to smile more.
And it only took one comment