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          That we failed people? I just did.

          To accept people want to cease to exist? No. Understand it, respect it, tolerate it if to mitigate unreasonable suffering, yes.

          Accept it just because, no. Life is not cheap, discardable or disposeable. So, no.

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              And even children, if faced with health conditions with no hope or chance of improvement or cure.

              I’m not against that. Your life, you should - you are - the only one with a word on how to dispose of it.

              But to contemplate death because you see no other option for a life worth living, because society, family, friends, whatever failed you, is not the purpose of euthanasia.

              Life is worth living.

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                I take it you’re pro-life and oppose abortions too? Obviously euthanasia wouldn’t be an option for you, you believe ‘life is worth living’ and a ‘precious gift’ and all that bullshit.

                Life is only worth living for those privileged enough to enjoy it; and those with this privilege are going to be fewer and fewer as we progress further into late stage capitalism, fascism, ww3, resource depletion and climate collapse.

                It’s nice that you’re having such a great time here, but to deny those who aren’t the right to a safe death justecause you can’t comprehend their suffering -is willfully ignorant and will be actively harmful if this ever becomes something we can vote for.

                Every adult who wants access to euthanasia should have access. No ifs, no buts.

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                  I voted in favor of the end of criminalization of abortion in my country; it was the first vote I ever cast and am proud of it.

                  Not that you asked or even deserve a polite answer after that tirade but I actually saw my mother waste away, for years, as a cancer ate her bit by bit. I don’t wish suffering of any kind to any one, so fuck you and your presuppositions.

                  And if this answer grants me a ban, I will wear it proudly.

                  It’s a shame and a disgrace we, as a species, came to the point we are today but if we are to blame anyone - here’s my advice - let’s start by getting our asses from the couch, walk to the nearest mirror and curse at the face staring back at us.

                  I’m fed up with people that by default take the position that everything is lost and there is no hope. So, again, fuck you and fuck off with that mindset.

                  Be politically active, stand up for your rights, unionize, talk to other people, meet like minded people, create some change, even if small. Actually do something.

                  Stop judging for a first.

                  Did I engage you in bad faith? Refused to answer your questions? I just hold different views from you and will fight to keep them, if necessary at the my own life’s risk.

                  I’ll repeat it again: I do not want the life of anyone, by default, viewed as discardable or disposable. That is an horrendous way to approach life.

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    The Hippocratic oath is far too frequently interpreted as a mandate to unilaterally inflict life as broadly and indiscriminately as possible.

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    You have a couple of decades worth of life left to deal with. You’ve got an eternity to be dead, and it could suck worse. Plus, if you’re a Buddhist or Hindu you’re probably gonna have to go through it all again. Might as well see this ride through to the end of the line.

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      What if I’m already sentenced to hell, and prolonging my life is going to lengthen/worsen my sentence due to violations of laws I am unaware of (think of The Good Place)?

      What if we’re dealing with a sadistic god, who dishes out punishment proportionally to one’s willingness to hold onto hope - and just ignores suicidal people because they’re not worth the trouble?

      What if, as others suggested… nothing, at all?

      How did you come to the conclusion that your speculation has more weight than any Roko’s Basilisk type shit I can come up with in 5 minutes just because I’m bored?

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        Why? It’s a simple risk assessment based one question:

        If I kill myself, will it stop the pain?

        And the answer is that I don’t know. Neither do you. For all we know, it could be worse.

        To me, that’s an unacceptable risk.

        Anything you infer or think I’m implying is based on your own assumptions (which are shallow and self-centered - you have no idea about the amount of pain I’ve suffered in my life, so fuck you very much too - pretty arrogant to assume you have a monopoly on suffering).

        My original statement isn’t a moral or religious statement, it’s just one of fact. You have a limited amount of time to live. You have (apparently) an unlimited amount of time to be dead, you will be dead eventually no matter what, and being dead could be much worse than being alive depending on what you experience.

        The odds that things will get better with suicide aren’t in your favor. That’s just a fact, kid. Don’t be in a rush to make things worse for yourself and everyone around you.

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          Occam’s Razor: The simplest explanation is often the correct one. It’s a whole lot simpler that there’s nothing when we die, rather than the whole afterlife business.

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            Which, incidentally, is what the ancient Egyptian’s conception of hell was:

            In order to receive judgement the dead journeyed through the various parts of the Duat to be judged. If the deceased was successfully able to pass various challenges, then they would reach the Judgment of the dead. In this ritual, the deceased’s first task was to correctly address each of the forty-two Assessors of Maat by name, while reciting the sins they did not commit during their lifetime.[15] After confirming that they were sinless, the heart of the deceased was weighed by Anubis against the feather of Maat, which represents truth and justice. Any heart that is heavier than the feather failed the test, and was rejected and eaten by Ammit, the devourer of souls, as these people were denied existence after death in the Duat. The souls that were lighter than the feather would pass this most important test, and would be allowed to travel to Aaru.

            The Duat is not equivalent to the conceptions of Hell in the Abrahamic religions, in which souls are condemned with fiery torment. The absolute punishment for the wicked, in ancient Egyptian thought, was the denial of an afterlife to the deceased, ceasing to exist in the intellectual form seen through the devouring of the heart by Ammit

            One of the reasons I’ve decided to stick around. Plus, I just like walking like an Egyptian…

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      As a counterargument I’d like to point out that when there’s enough pain present you might just want to tap out.

      Especially now since one of the lovely American corporations decided to fuck up pain medication for those that truly needs it for decades at the minimum, because they just had to get that fucking profit.

      I’m not even American and I’m on about a third of what I theoretically should be. My doctors admit this, but anything more and there’s a risk of malpractice bullshit.

      Hence, pain. Fuck that. I’ll tap out when enough is enough.

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        The major flaw in your reasoning is that you’re assuming that there’s less pain on the other side. It could be better, but it could be much much worse, especially if you’re carrying the regret of unfinished business left behind.

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          You might believe there’s another side but that’s not important to this situation. You’re projecting your personal beliefs on others.

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            Literally the entire point of my comment is “we don’t know”. Don’t put words in other people’s mouths, and understand that it’s bad form to attempt to make straw man arguments when you have nothing to contribute to the conversation.

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              lol more projection. “We don’t know” is exactly like “both sides do it”.

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                  lol lol moving the goal posts. Now I have to PROVE my position to you while yours is the default and requires no further discussion. I haven’t had a conversation like this since I was on reddit.

                  You are the definition of toxic

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              “we don’t know” is scientific equivalency, like

              On the one hand 99 scientists think global warming is real

              On the other hand here’s a Maggat “scientist” in a red hat from Bob Jones university with a Ph.D in religious studies and geology who thinks everything is okay.

              There’s nothing to indicate any human experience is not the result of biochemical processes and that brain death doesn’t end consciousness.

              “We don’t know” = how to tell me you’re a religious cult member without telling me you’re a religious cult member

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                Well this thread has proven conclusively that atheists are just as closed minded as religious folk. I’ve never seen so many angry idiots argue for suicide.

                I’ll spell it out one more time for you dumbfucks and then I’m blocking all your asses.

                There is no scientific consensus on what happens to the consciousness after death. Period.

                It could just end. It could also mean that you lay there helplessly experiencing the absolute pain of every cell dying, rotting and being consumed as it decays.

                It could be that you find yourself trying to justify your sins to Anubis. It could be that you end up in Valhalla.

                We simply don’t know. And that makes the risk assessment of the action of suicide (as a relief from the pain of living) volatile to the point where the possible gain in pain relief isn’t worth the loss of your life.

                That’s it. That’s my entire argument. It’s not Christian, it’s not scientific. It’s fucking assessing a gambling risk. Grow up and get your collective heads out of your asses - the moral grandstanding because you "suspect’’ I might have a religious view is fucking idiotic and obnoxious - you’re no better than the Christians you think you’re preaching against.

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                  Well this thread has proven conclusively that atheists are just as closed minded as religious folk.

                  This is a memes forum. You’re making some very strong assumptions about the people here. Not a single person in this thread has identified themselves with a religion. This is still you projecting your beliefs on the world instead of listening to others.

                  There is no scientific consensus on what happens to the consciousness after death. Period.

                  This is not a scientific question. This is a metaphysical question.

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          If there’s any religion I had to adhere to it would probably be Buddhism, which I don’t, really, except for the whole “we’re born, we suffer and then we die” viewpoint. In that specific case it would only lead to more, albeit different suffering.

          Unless you’ve experienced daily pain on the side of 5+ for over a decade straight I don’t really give a shit about what you think though, especially if it is because of some religious belief.

          I have a few regrets, but no unfinished business I care that much about. If he wasn’t already an alcoholic wreck I’d beat the shit out of my abusive asshole of an excuse for a father, but that’s about it.

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          The simplest explanation is that it’s the same as before you were born. Can you see how a religious view might lead to unnecessary suffering in this life?

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            It’s not a religious view - you folks need to take a step back and look at the argument, not your own inferences.

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              It’s an unscientific view. Maybe in the afterlife you get to finally meet the Invisible Pink Unicorn, so what are you waiting for? When you weigh up all the imaginary possibilities, they add to just about zero.

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                  Invisible just means you can’t see it, not that it can’t be pink. And remember, we’re talking about a unicorn here.

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          Other side? I’m sure when I get there the Easter Bunny will torture me no matter what I do, as is the custom, so why think about it?

          Can someone please invent a religitard AI filter to just remove shit like this from webpages? I feel like editing out proselytizing cult sales pitches would be something AI could be great at.

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    Ohh, my turn to post this classic:

    The view from halfway down - Alison Tafel

    The weak breeze whispers nothing
    the water screams sublime.
    His feet shift, teeter-totter
    deep breaths, stand back, it’s time.

    Toes untouch the overpass
    soon he’s water-bound.
    Eyes locked shut but peek to see
    the view from halfway down.

    A little wind, a summer sun
    a river rich and regal.
    A flood of fond endorphins
    brings a calm that knows no equal.

    You’re flying now, you see things
    much more clear than from the ground.
    It’s all okay, or it would be
    were you not now halfway down.

    Thrash to break from gravity
    what now could slow the drop?
    All I’d give for toes to touch
    the safety back at top.

    But this is it, the deed is done
    silence drowns the sound.
    Before I leaped I should’ve seen
    the view from halfway down.

    I really should’ve thought about
    the view from halfway down.
    I wish I could’ve known about
    the view from halfway down—

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      Presumably someone grabbed him and then they grd the rope through and round. Adding more rope and belts as more folks arrived.

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    I’m very worried about everyone here. Really, I know that there is a way out that isn’t suicide–it’s revolution–but it seems like you’ve all submitted to Capitalist Realism. I’ve thought about risking my life in an attempt to overthrow the state, but unlike you all, I am legitimately afraid of losing my life. It’d be such a sad note to end my life on. I wouldn’t be there to see any surprising good things happen. I wouldn’t get to see a socialist system established before me, and I wouldn’t be able to do anything to help anyone. How come you all feel fine about death? There’s nothing afterwards. There were the Viet Cong who couldn’t live to see their country establish socialism, there were the Leninists who died fighting the Tsar who couldn’t see the Soviet Union come to be, there were the slaves who died in Southern plantations who couldn’t see Juneteenth. If you were really willing to die, you’d die in battle.

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      People don’t really feel “fine about death” but more like “being alive feels worse than death”.

      There is almost always some thing in such a person’s life that is causing such feelings. Even if someone thinks the world is better off without them, it’s caused by how they “perceive” their impact on the world, which can be caused by the way other people interact with them.

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      The problem with the Western middle class is they’ve been conditioned to think they’re part of the ruling class.

      They believe that the ruling class’ successes are their own, until it’s time to get ready to go to work the next day.

      They see themselves as above poor people and believe they’re entitled to more before those who have less.

      They always believe the solution to their problems is to make more, not spend less.

      The issue isn’t just capitalism. It’s not just greed. It’s a culture of consumerism. Hopefully anyone who has been around for a few decades can recognize how much the social landscape has changed in favor of encouraging people to sell themselves out as quickly as possible.

      We are living in the most negative of peaces.

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      Bruh bleeding out in a pit of mud on the battlefield as other random people fall on top of my already crushed ribs is way fucking worse than a bullet to the dome.

      Plus, this revolution could easily go the other direction and I’ll end up being tortured to death anyway. I feel like this take is possibly the most historically ignorant one possible.

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    Then, after you get “saved” from suicide, they strip you of your rights and shove you in a cell for up to five days.

    And that attitude is what the staff will have towards you. You are there to be punished for daring to be suicidal and trying to reject the gift of life. You’ll probably lose your job after the hospital stay, and then get stuck with thousands in bills for the “treatment” (sitting in a room watching day time tv while you listen to people in psychosis or dementia getting the shit beaten out of them by the staff.)

    But this is a good thing! It’s so much better to be alive then not dead, that’s why we need to abuse suicidal people!

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      We should make dying in battle a good thing again. The wrong kind of peace is a blight upon society.

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        We should not. Instead of taking care of it privately, those with ideations would try to kick off or perpetuate a hot war. Those tend to catch people who weren’t in that pickle up in them.

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          Battle doesn’t require war. We can bring back raiding I know of quite a few churches that deserve to have the copper wires stripped out of the walls. Imagine the price for scrapping a shitty Mormon temple.

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      This is why I never told anyone when I held a gun to my head. I was afraid it would ruin my life after I didn’t do it.

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      No no, you don’t get it. You have to suicide the slow American way with cancer and heart disease. Pick your favorite form of socially acceptable self mutilation today!

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      Yepo. I was on a 72hr hold after a manic episode caused by a med interaction (Wellbutrin, took away the mild depression but let the massive anxiety run wild) and it was the worst fucking experience of my life. Literally just stick you in a program that doesn’t give a fuck about why your there, just headcount they can bill for. I was perfectly fine like 2hrs after I got locked in and spent the remaining 70hrs climbing the walls.

      0/10 Do not recommend. And this was in Massachusetts, a place wildly known for good healthcare.

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        I’m in Oklahoma. I went in voluntary a few months ago for suicidal ideation (which I think is a rational reaction to the events of November…)

        They upgraded me to involuntary illegally (like, a single therapist accused me of lying when I said I was no longer suicidal, and made the call to hold me.) I had vape smoke blown in my face, was misgendered and assaulted by staff.

        I won’t call 988 or any service like that ever. There is no accountability or safety here

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          Never call 988. Choose life or choose death, do not choose the additional 25 thousand dollar bill, degradation, trauma, and suffering that comes from 988. It’s a trap and the only people who win are big pharma, psychiatric inpatient facility investors or owners, and rich psychiatrists who sling drugs (that barely do more than a placebo), sling false hope, and sling financial exploitation.

          Just say no to 988!

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            My brother used to threaten to kill himself. My mom ended up calling the cops and they took him away on a 5150. They ended up electrocuting him in the facility. No wonder I don’t trust suicide hotlines or therapists.

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            Just for context, 988 is a Canadian suicide crisis helpline.

            That’s so disappointing that one of the first resources that comes up when searching for help would be, essentially, a trap.

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            Trust me, you DO NOT want to use the NHS for mental health stuff.

            Too much of my c/ptsd is from nhsmh services now. The sheer amount of blatantly ignored abuse on those wards has left me terrified of hospitals, healthcare workers and doctors. They can do anything to you in there and you have no voice or rights. They decide what gets written down about you. They decide what happens to you and you belongings.

            I’ve been told by several people who’ve been in/worked in prisons, that you have more rights and safety oversights in prisons that on mh wards here.

            Out patient care is not much better either. 5+ year waiting lists for 30 minutes of cbt ever 6 weeks to treat your suicidal depression brought on by chronically shit living conditions, isn’t going to be at all helpful. Nor is 7+ years on a waiting list to see a burnt out healthcare worker for ten minutes, who immediatly decides you’re malingering without listening to you or reading your supporting paper work, so you are now deemed unworthy of progressing up the ladder to join a waiting list to see a specialist for your condition.

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              Wow so your healthcare is chronically underfunded too. Do you also have the privatization ghouls constantly scratching at the edges as well? I hate those guys. Don’t know how to get rid of them, because the well-off folks want to let them in (to the henhouse).

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                Our current ‘Labour’ government is increasingly far right, despite their once socialist origins. The Conservatives who were in for over a decade before them, gutted and sold off a lot of the NHS, and now Sir Kid Harmer is twisting the knife and finishing the job.

                We could have fixed this had the Israeli funded hate crime of our ruling class not slandered and ousted Jeremy Corbyn from the Labour Party. He is a socialist who supports actual human rights, both here and in Palestine. Had he been allowed to be PM instead of Starmer, the privatisation of everything was going to end.

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              Having internet was the only thing that kept me sane while staying on the wards, which is darkly ironic considering why I was in there in the first place.

              I’ve read on threads like these that in the USA and Canada actual therapy is provided for inpatients though, which is something useful at least. In the UK, inpatient facilities are literally just holding pens till they decide if you’re well enough (able to put up with the abhorrent behaviour of the staff without swearing or being visibly distressed for at least 3 days) to be released.

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      i always thought (and pretty sure this is the case in most places) that suicide was technically a crime to give police an excuse to bust in to stop an attempt if needed. not to put people in fucking jail for failing to go through with it.

      but then again the us would like any excuse to incarcerate people so who knows.

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        They don’t put you in jail - they put you in a “hospital” you can’t leave, which is basically a jail that pretends it helps you. Instead, you get maybe 15 minutes with a psychiatrist (I don’t understand how the one from my suicide attempt passed his TOEFL), who will prescribe you anti depressants. Leaving is contingent on agreeing to take these anti depressants. All of the other staff are random, uncertified people who have the legal right to physically assault you. These are the same people that decide whether to give you a grievance form after beating you up (which gets tossed in the trash anyway.)

        Research suggests that suicide rates go up after inpatient hospitalization. A substantial aspect of my PTSD is related to abuse as a child in inpatient facilities. I’m an adult that still has nightmares over this shit.

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          It’s an industry akin to private prisons. Just another fucked up brain child of soulless financiers that value paper over human life.

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          Because there is no way to prove involuntary care makes suicide more likely (since those with a financial interest will always say the post-release suicides were hospitalized due to having worse mental health), the grifting of the downtrodden will continue.

          I long for the day a genius statisitcian finds a way to prove what all involuntarily treated people already know.

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    If I can’t have confirmation that the afterlife exists, NOBODY gets to kill themselves. Fucking idiots.

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      It’s an evolutionary trait from preventing harm to a herd member. It kicks in automatically for everyone but the far end of personality disorder spectrum, regardless of what rational thought patterns are without the surge of adrenaline.

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      Well yeah you finally have the knowledge that this earth isn’t worth living in and finally overcame your body’s built in instinct to not die, and some assholes literally force you to stay alive by grabbing onto you like nearly every depiction of hell or hades that has ever existed including tying you to the bridge with ropes.

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        i get that these people need more help than just being convinced not to do it, but in that moment isn’t talking them out of it the right thing to do?

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            This hits way too close to home. In my time I have known many friends and loved ones that have dealt with suicidal ideation and a few attempts.

            Every single one of them is doing better now. They’ve all built lives and are happy. They are all so grateful they failed or were prevented from killing themselves.

            You don’t turn a blind eye when someone is having a mental health crisis. You help them.

            To your point in that moment they are not of a sound mind to be making that decision.

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        You don’t know if the man was willing to be saved at this point, he may have been in a situation where he wasn’t able to hold himself up. Also this appears to not be the US, I assume they have their own cultural views on suicide and often cultures do have longer term solutions for people who are suicidal, Some cultures in Africa will take a normal workday off as a group and have a public celebration of sorts they will stay in the sun most of the day and community members will all individually take time to talk to the community member in need and show effort to spend time with them about anything at all, they rarely talk about their troubles is what I understand. There are approaches that differ from the west and there’s places with less stigma.

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        Or maybe it’s the most cared for he’s felt in a long time. There’s something powerful about having that many people care and dedicate time to saving you.

        The reasons for “why” he was trying to commit suicide definently would effect how he feels about this

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        From a suicidal persons pov that’s exactly what I imagine that would feel like. Also the insane amount of embarrassment from a huge crowd of people that are all there because of you. Some of whom are probably “it’s all in your head” kind of people. It is hard enough to open up and show your feelings to one trusted person, let alone an effin crowd.

        That said, the guy that they saved can now say “F you and see you tomorrow” so that’s something.

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          Oh man I’ve got a couple words for ya.

          let alone an effin crowd.

          A person can be smart, but people are fucking stupid.

          Please don’t you ever equate yourself to what more than one person thinks.

          You’ve thought about you more and your opinion is the most valuable when it comes to you. Be yourself at all times. Maybe you’ll do it enough and people will admire it. Maybe you have, just always forget about what others think, it has so much to do with you and so little to do with them.

          You can’t share yourself if you’ve already molded it to be everyone else.

          Edit: I really hope you don’t read this as malicious or corrective, more of just a please don’t forget about you. It’s so easy to compare yourself to others or where you think others should place you, but they can never ever have your perspective. Just be your best you, and at least one person will love that and feel proud of it. That person will be you.