mar_k [he/him]

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Cake day: February 19th, 2023

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  • My high school sex ed never taught anything gay or anal. So I knew to wear a condom with my first girlfriend, but until I was a freshman in college (a year ago…) I didn’t realize it’s important to wear one with a guy too. First gay experience, we’d been seeing each other for a month and I thought I was pretty ready, sock on the dorm door and everything, but then bro asked me if I had a condom and I was like “huh?” And obviously I didn’t so he just gave me head instead

    For whatever reason I thought condoms only helped in vaginal sex, since that’s the only thing they taught its use for. Didn’t really know how gay and bi men prevent STIs other than monogamy and a few other assumptions. Part of that stupidity was probably just me being optimistic and horny brained about not having to wear anything




  • Ok I didn’t see that thread because I tend to look over some posts. I still think drawing attention to a post isn’t fully the same when we’re all one giant community of communities. I feel like you’re being a little over reactive to some terminally online people being argumentative and annoying you a bit. Maybe it is sort of a brigade tho.

    you’re turning on your peers, whilst patting yourself on the back for being inclusive

    Respectfully I feel like you’re doing this right now, wanting to separate from other trans folks just because the vocality of their beliefs is annoying you and a few of the people in this thread were rude. Unfortunately stuff like this is gonna happen if someone makes a post specifically about us, but in no other cases have we gone around dominating blahaj posts. I also don’t see how we’re “disrupting a safe and inclusive space” by giving our takes.


  • I’m sorry but I don’t understand how commenting under a post from an instance we’re federated with is considered brigading. It’s not like we’re posting about/linking to a separate space to infiltrate. Our communities are under the same umbrella, so this just shows up in our feed.

    Are people from hexbear jumping into a discussion that should maybe primarily be reserved for blahaj? Maybe, but I think people just want to offer our side of things, and we honestly just don’t want the two biggest queer spaces in the fediverse breaking up because we’re often edgy and argumentative/passionate about leftist beliefs.

    I also don’t think we’re derailing from anything or preventing you from having a defederation conservation among yourselves just because we leave replies.


  • mar_k [he/him]@hexbear.netto196@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOhio? rule
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    11 months ago

    (some) Americans are so self-important when they mention states being the same size as other peoples’ countries lmao. "Why should we have to point to Germany on a map if Germans can’t even point to le bigger Montana? smuglord "

    It’s like, do they feel the same about knowing other big countries’ internal divisions? Canadian provinces? Russian federal subjects? Brazilian states? Chinese provinces? Australian states? Cuz the average subdivision in all those countries is larger than the average US state.

    And people usually know the most important ones, anyways (Cali, Texas, Florida, NY)