I may have ask this before but im not too sure.

So it leems i wont be able to get into theripy anytime soon for some dumb reasons and also some family members problems have to be taken care of first like surgerys and whatnot.

I have depression pretty badly which kinda runs in the modern age like a plague and im not sure what to do with it, im not even sure what to do now or in the future. i feel very lost and stuck while being in some sort of werid loop. it dosent help how i have autism which also stinks. it feels like i always want things instanly or my interest changes every day, which is prety annoying and im limited in many ways.

what can i do to help with depression and life?..

  • wildeaboutoskar@lemmy.worldEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Things that help me:

    • Having a routine- every Sunday I walk into town and get a nice coffee/cake and read for a while and just be around people. If I stay inside for too long I will start to self isolate.

    • Hobby- I go to a couple of choirs during the week. It helps me get out of the house and it’s an activity that stops me dwelling on things. You’re usually too busy focusing on the music to think of anything else. Singing also helps you regulate your breathing which is supposed to help with relaxation and sleeping.

    • Spend time in or around nature, even if that’s a pet. Being around green space can help ground you. Being around animals can be a massive boost. Go to the park with a book and spot dogs.

    • Medication - this has helped me more than anything but isn’t for everyone. I also had a few rounds of therapy but didn’t get loads out of it, but it may well work for you.

  • AnakinSandlover@kbin.social
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    1 year ago

    I speak as someone who has been able to somewhat manage my own issues with depression.

    • One immediate thing you can do is to cut out major sources of sugar from your diet. Give it 3 days (I notice the effects with less than 2 days) at least. Mental health and physical health are interconnected, so one bad thing affecting your metabolism is for sure going to have an effect on your brain (your brain’s metabolism and ability to regulate energy too).
    • Get enough sleep and exercise, as well as meditation. For meditation you can start with short sessions and make sure to keep in mind that there is no “failing to focus/meditate” as it’s all part of the journey/process.
    • As others have said, sunlight.
    • Socialization. I personally don’t get enough time out of the house but I notice the effects immediately when I do.

    The next two tips are from the book “Feeling Good” by Dr. David Burns. I haven’t finished the book yet but have made use of what I’ve read, and some that have helped me the most are:

    • The “Self-Approval Method” - everyday, count the number of things you did or anything about yourself that you approve of or are proud of. Hopefully as you get more used to it that number will rise over time.
    • The “Triple-Column Technique” - on the first column you will write down your automatic thoughts (the negative, self-defeating thoughts that seem to come naturally to people with depression); on the second column you will list down the cognitive distortions you can identify from the first column (look up a list of cognitive distortions, there are about 10 of them); and on the third column write down your rebuttal to the automatic thought but make sure it is realistic and not wishful thinking.

    That’s all I can say, and I hope you get better! All the best!

  • bellsDoSing@lemm.eeEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Quite a few good tips have been mentioned already:

    • proper sleep schedule (sunlight early and during day, litlle light in evening / at night helps)
    • regular movement / sports
    • nutrition (less sugar)

    The saying “a healthy mind resides in a healthy body” has some truth to it.

    But one thing I wanna mention is journaling:

    One of the benefits of psychotherapy is that you have to articulate your thoughts. Turns out articulation via writing gets you quite far and is already a lot better than spinning thoughts in your head only.

    Literally just write what comes to mind. Or ask yourself what was good or bad about “yesterday”. Try writing on most days, but don’t force yourself to a specific amount. Try sticking it out for some weeks until it becomes normal to write. Over time you might see certain patterns, topics that come up again and again. This can also serve as a possible base for later talks with your therapist.

    Nevertheless, I still wanna encourage you to try therapy, as having a therapist ask you questions can get you better out of your own thinking patterns (kinda hard if you try it with just your own, single mind).

    Theraphy can also function as a catalyst, to get you over the worst part and give you a new perspective, which you then can follow more and more by yourself if so desired. But the answer to that will come to you when the time is right.

    Take care, it will get better eventually! Just may take a while, some external help and some patience with yourself.