• Asafum@feddit.nl
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      1 month ago

      I’ve been “alone” for so long I can’t even tell if I want to be around people anymore! Every time I have to go do something it feels like I’m doing something I don’t want to now. lol

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        I feel the same way a lot of times. It takes effort to be social and it’s easier to just stay at home and not do anything. It’s especially easy for me because I have no friends in this town and my closest friends live an hour away. Being lonely seems like it’s easier than having friends even if it feels worse. It’s a problem to be sure.

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      1 month ago

      This is one where there is a significant economic cause and effect.

      People not having free time, money for activities, hobbies, etc - this impacts our ability to be social.

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        I agree, but also, where do you go to meet people anymore? People used to get into conversations in places like coffee shops and bars. Now everyone’s looking at their phones, possibly even with earbuds in. If you’re religious, I guess church. Plenty of people aren’t religious though.

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          There’s a hobby/ttrpg store nearby that hosted game nights every week. They’d try out a new game.

          There wasn’t a big crowd, but went out wife my wife to dinner and there were definitely people chatting from different groups at the bar. Dont know if they knew each other though, its not that big of a city.

          I think there are still places to go, its just harder for a lot of people to go out. Even my wife and I, we haven’t had a dinner just us in a few years (kids).

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            There’s a store like that here and they were totally insular. I asked if there were any games I could join in and they looked at me like I was some sort of stupid neophyte who wouldn’t know D&D from Call of Cthulhu. Fuck that.

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              Oh that’s unfortunate, thats not how they run things here. I haven’t been in a while, but its more like a bunch of DMs and everyone gets randomly assigned to a table. Games are 30 minutes, and then rotating tables. Its more about trying out some different games than anything else.

              They did have a separate night they’d host, but those were reserved rooms (like a conference room setup, TV available for map display). More like a night for regular players to have a regular space to play, but its kind of obvious (with the reserved signs on the rooms and all).