My friend Mary said her grandpa just stayed alive to spite her mother, he was mean. Should have been dead for years but hung on to make her take care of him.
On the other hand, my mom’s dad shut himself in his house, laid down and died when his wife (my mom’s mom) finally divorced him after decades of abuse. Not killed himself using anything, just died. She lived for her happiest years after that, just sitting on the porch with her boyfriend shelling pecans.
Fancy Napkins!
Probably exercise. Lifelong habit of exercise. Different sorts at different times but never nothing, always something on purpose to strengthen & keep flexible, most days of the week.
Night cream and sunscreen since my early 20s too, I do not look how I expected to at this age, nice surprise that was.
I like penultimate, next to last.
Because it’s 90F and 100% humidity? Walking to work I get sweaty so I want an electric bike not an effortful bike. I hate riding a bike but got a chance to try the e-bikes at a city event. That is like a dream of a bike, you pedal, it moves. No pushing, and no uncomfortable seat, it’s comfortable and a joy to ride.
Bike or walk? I’d much rather walk. Electric bike, though? Electric bike is fun.
I have a story about heat and flavor. Often the flavor and heat ARE intertwined, if you “cool” the pepper you mute the flavor.
So I make lentil salad sometimes, it’s one of those dishes so much better than it should be - cooked al dente lentils, jalapeno, onion, carrot in a dressing of olive oil, mustard, lemon. My little kids loved it but would whine that it was too spicy. So my older daughter graciously de-seeded and took out the ribs of the jalapenos when helping make it one time and
They whined because it didn’t taste as good. The flavor was contained in the spicier part of the pepper.
Not everything should be spicy but it’s good to have a tolerance because some flavors are in those spicy foods that simply aren’t in the mild versions.
I don’t think of selective gene editing of one person as eugenics and do think we will get that, we have some versions of it for born people already. Editing it out of humanity? No that’s probably a bad idea. One of my kids works in genetics and was horrified when I joked about her making designer babies like in Gattaca, so I don’t think science thinks it a good idea. Push on one thing, another pops up.
You might enjoy Octavia Butler’s Xenogenesis and Patternist books, if you like thinking about this stuff.
I’m a lady and haven’t had any trouble here. The only place I really notice how ridiculously male - skewed Lemmy is, is on the NSFW. That is definitely all “male gaze” stuff, with the occasional actual lesbian also posting stuff guys like. Even the posts OF men are FOR men, everything posted with some assumption only men are looking at the posts.
The other communities just aren’t so gendered, I don’t notice much whether someone seems to be one or the other, it isn’t relevant to cocktails or cooking or gardening or science fiction.
Like Gattaca?
I do not think people have enough information to even do a good job of it, we’d accidentally make everyone prone to some disease and wipe out humanity, we don’t have a great track record with selectively breeding plants and animals. So no.
In the way it has been done ever in real life? Oh hell no. Some vague idea that certain people are worth more than others based only on their looks, and a push to make a better world by making them the only model for humanity?
So no. I don’t trust people to use it for good, and if it was somehow used for good, would probably still have unintended disastrous consequences.
I hesitate to say this out loud, but mid-50s and nothing hurts yet, except the migraines I’ve gotten since teenage years.
Knees last if you take care of them. Back lasts if you take care of it and are lucky, and don’t get fat, and are lucky, and don’t work a physical job, and are lucky.
Stretch. Exercise. Don’t overeat.
My kids don’t like their new one, I haven’t given it a listen. Do you like it?
Fontaines DC whole new album, at the request of first one, then another of my children. I know some people don’t like the more produced sound on this one but my God it’s good.
Before that, for me alone, Billy Strings Know it all. “Well I thought I knew it all, then I crashed into the wall. Let me learn from my mistakes and try to pick up all the pieces.”
DO whatever makes you feel better is not bad advice. Some of these studies have overarching trends that I do believe - caffeine and Adderall are protective to your brain, a little bit of speed keeps the brain healthy.
Alcohol and Benadryl are risky over time, so a habit of downers is detrimental to the brain over time.
Logically this makes sense. I think to some extent it’s just metabolism/weight, staying lean is healthier all round but there does seem to be a pattern of results showing a habit of doing a little bit of stimulants is good for you.
New College WAS a school where kids sort of designed their own major, did a project or thesis and defended it. The Veggie Bus that ran on used oil from McDonald’s fryers was a New College project. It was good for hyper achievers who didn’t fit into a canned curriculum. I don’t know that I’d call it “liberal” but it was progressive and challenging.
This apparently annoyed the fuck out of the governor for some reason. Maybe he just doesn’t like the idea of smart weirdos. But it’s those people who move us forward, the smart ones who don’t fit in.
That can’t be unique. I think most guys want a woman who can hold a full time job. That is not a big ask, it’s like a minimum - it makes absolute sense, you will be stronger together. I would be extremely suspicious of a guy who didn’t want me to work. Even if they made so much and wanted to cover all the bills, great. I work, we have some money to save and I can go get my legs waxed or whatever without having to ask for money to do it. I do not want someone to have that sort of control. I disagree strongly with the commenters saying that you should bend on this, it is not at all an outrageous thing to need.
Weekly for both. We live in the tropics, love sex so wash sheets often; shower daily but use same towel all week.
Pizza Hut best value per calorie. One slice can sustain you for a day. If there is a way to stuff more calories into a pizza they will find it. The thick crust one, refrigerated then reheated is so good, all that extra grease makes the crust crisp up in a very pleasant way.
Mostly though, if I want pizza I make it.
Marcus King ROCKS and he is not good looking. Charismatic as fuck on stage too.
I think there is about the same proportion of good music to bad as there ever was, you just don’t hear the bad music of the past because it didn’t last. Survival bias, I think it’s called.
It depends. I worked at one company without a dedicated HR department (a payroll company) and it ran fine without it. Managers of each department worked with upper management and finance to decide staffing, we went to management and if needed (I never did) upper management or the lady who did our payroll (they handled both our payroll and client payrolls) or the benefits department (same deal) for most of the sort of things HR does at my company.
I think it’s bloated at my current company, there are some people with not a whole job, but it’s not like they do nothing or don’t provide value, they do. But like, one guy’s job is apparently employee development and all he does is choose some general “learning software” that we then have access to. Gives some useless and painfully boring presentations on the aforementioned software that provide nothing of value. Then I have no idea what he does with the rest of the year. Why is that one whole job, when the rest of us basically juggle multiple jobs?
Music, music, and more music. I would say books but I read too fast, they wouldn’t last. Might as well just remember the stories I have already read. Well, actually - my favorite books please yes.