https://lemm.ee/post/36080599/12990706

It’s actually pretty simple (but not easy at all)… You start actually believing that other people can’t hurt you. That is pretty much all there is to it. (Not quite, will explain later).

You simply don’t give that power to people. I love my spouse. But my spouse cheats on me. Now I could be hurt by the betrayal… But why? What is the benefit for me? I don’t need to feel hurt to know that my spouse is not worth keeping around, to be my spouse anymore.

If other people do something bad to me, that is not on me, it’s their problem. They’re evil/unaware/selfish. It’s no reflection on the quality of person I am. Thus when someone does something bad to me, it’s honestly just good to know. I can decide how bad I think it is and react accordingly. But feeling hurt by it is not really required in that process.

As I said at the beginning, “not quite”, there are a whole bunch of other beliefs attached to/required by this. For example, I believe that everything is temporary, or at least that the chance of something permanent (really, temporary until end of life) being low. I don’t expect to be together with my spouse to the end of time - if it happens though, I have nothing against it. I believe that change is fine, and I look forward to it: If my spouse cheats on me, I can experience no partner for a while or forever, or experience looking for a new one, both things are fine with me. And so on. Basically all my beliefs are set up in a way that I’m fine with whatever happens.

(The only exception is extreme, or lasting physical harm and death. I can’t experience anything “normally” anymore when these happen to me. Some disabilities could be fine, but I probably have a limit of how much I could be affected. Losing all movement in all my limbs could be fine, but I’m not sure. Losing an arm or a leg or hearing or similar severeness I could probably be fine with.)

Now the thing is, changing your entire belief system to be fine with pretty much anything is not something people are either willing or able to do. I did it though and think that theoretically everyone can do it.

¯\_(ツ)_/¯ I guess that’s why it’s a hot take. I think it’s possible without becoming a recluse

Other people shouldn’t be able to hurt you, non-physically.

Most important here is the dabbing.

I don’t have a source on hand, but I’m sure that a pronounced chin has been found in studies as male attractiveness symbol

Also what no one has said yet, if you put two identical people next to each other, same mindset, same character, same visuals etc etc, but the one is wealthy and the other is poor, for 99% of people the wealthier one is more sexually attractive. Our brains view access to resources as a desirable quality.

And so, why would a rom com that is literally supposed to be about attractive people, make them purposefully less attractive? There’s basically no reason.

For example.

But honestly I was more joking. The thing that makes most projects useful is the developers developing it, and they can’t clone that

Not sure what you’re actually losing on YouTube though… You go fullscreen quickly anyway. And if I put two windows side by side I just disable the tab because I’m likely doing it for a reason to have two specific pages on them, actually giving more screenspace because I don’t have the bar at the top either.

Which website actually has a layout that makes use of your extra space, and doesn’t center the content with empty space on the left and right side? I actually have barely ever noticed a case where it was useful

They’re not supposed to, it’s just about blocking them from using the software :)

The real solution is to include a few tiananmenSquare variables in all the repositories. Either they exclude the entire repository or just the specific file, in either case the entire project may be unusable.

With Proton, a large majority of games run on Linux, and most even better than on windows.

What would theoretically happen if they refused?

A repetition of the truth is always valuable. Not everyone fully understands how broken our society is. Even if just 0.1% read the comment and understand something new, it was valuable. Even if it’s just a reminder, it was valuable.

On the other hand, your comment is not valuable 100% of the time. Complaining about something generally true being there, which you could just ignore if you already know it, is absolutely useless. In fact, it’s even negative value, because if your complaint was followed and someone came to the thread without the knowledge, they’d be denied an opportunity to learn.

Are you a bot? This answer is so generic and not even addressing OP.

Honestly I can’t see why you’d choose average, non-wealthy. If you want quiet and peaceful, you’re sure to get it when wealthy, just pay for a large residence and security on the outskirts, then stay inside. Use disguises/body doubles when going out. Except for a little organizational overhead, which you can also pay people to do for you, you can have everything you want when you’re famous and wealthy.

I have no idea how selection works anywhere else, since I only ever used gimp.

For me, I don’t understand this meme, selection seems to work very intuitively, it seems to do what I expect it to do.

But the thing is, we don’t need to develop products. New products are just further resource usage, more greenhouse gasses, more “infinite growth”. Also, a company or individual having “an edge” in competition by developing something first is simply waste of resources. Now only they are allowed to improve upon it, make it more efficient, whatever. If this didn’t exist, yea they’d be incentivized less to create it in the first place, but also now everyone could take it and make it better.

We have to go away from thinking as individuals in the direction of thinking as humanity.