It’s toxic AF. Years ago when I was finally first starting to figure out that I was non-binary I tried to join a few online spaces to talk to people. The amount of places I was outright banned from or just made to feel I was clearly not welcome because I’m AMAB and was not on or planning to start HRT and my very existence was “triggering” to people there already was insane. And then there was the seemingly neverending parade of trans women who saw me as just an egg in need of cracking because of course they knew my gender better that I could possibly have and I’d be so much happier once I let go of all that internalized misogyny that was obviously the only thing keeping me from being an out and proud trans woman.

Never had anyone do that to me IRL. Even looking like the dudeliest Dad this side of a barbecue and the literal textbook definition of a Bear.