• FMT99@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    It’s because it’s fatalistic ‘humor’. If they actually believed there was a good chance of being murdered they wouldn’t go out.

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      11 months ago

      It’s partly fatalistic humor, partly practical. There is risk in the situation to everyone involved, but it’s way higher for women. You inform people of the circumstances of the date to increase your safety.

      Letting someone else know your whereabouts is good defensive thinking. Wrapping the real need to do it in humor is a way to remove some of the sting from the truth of why youre doing it.

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        11 months ago

        Interestingly, it’s only defensive thinking if you also let your date know that someone else knows your exact location.

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          11 months ago

          Its still defensive because if you go missing, there is a known suspect, time and location.

          Wont help if he chokes you to death in a nearby car, but if you’re kidnapped, it gives police or competent parties a chance to find you.

    • AnalogyAddict@lemmy.world
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      11 months ago

      Not true. It’s a risk analysis. The risk may be high, but some women still think the potential benefit is worth it.

      It’s why so many people still play the lottery.

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        11 months ago

        But the risk isn’t high. Sure, it happens, but for any arbitrary person the chance to be murdered on a date is pretty much 0.

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          11 months ago

          The risk is high in consequences, not frequency.

          Besides, murder isn’t the only risk, you know.

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      11 months ago

      If they wouldn’t go out because of the chances of being murdered they would never go anywhere.