I think, though, some people are too eager to throw out what they think is a reality check. Like in the post above, some are terrified of letting other trans people suffer (rightfully so), so they paint with too broad a brush and insist that someone must simply be in denial. I watched MLP, I like cute art and flowers and scented candles, and make female characters in video games because they get better fashion options. Does that mean I’m trans and denying it? No, it doesn’t.
It’s a delicate topic, and I won’t deny that there is a lot of stigma and social momentum against having these kinds of honest conversations about oneself. I’m just afraid that young people who are still trying to figure out who they are might get the wrong idea about themselves if people keep insisting that because you might like the color pink you must therefore be trans.
I watched MLP with my daughters. I’ve come to the conclusion that the show is basically Star Trek: TNG for little girls, complete with Q. It really is surprisingly good, despite the frilly aesthetic.
The prime directive doesn’t apply to you. You already questioned your gender and found the truth. In Star Trek terms, you’re a warp-capable society. Even if you decided to stay on your home planet.
The egg prime directive is, according to the name, about hiding information from people who haven’t thought about it.
The cost of misgendering a cis person is that they feel weird. The cost of maintaining the prime directive for an egg is they might commit suicide.
The cost of misgendering a cis person is that they feel weird.
Let’s be clear that is an assumption. I understand that there is a shit ton of fake astroturfing going on, but not every single story of detransistioning is lies.
For a more personal experience point to this:
When I was a teen, transness wasn’t really talked about, so a cis male being un-masculine “had to” mean they were gay.
Cards on the table, I’m bisexual. But only for a single digit number of men. I’m effectively cishet.
But with how many times I heard that I must be gay, from bullies, from well meaning folks, from strangers… it added significant additional turmoil to my toughest times as a teen. Suicidal ideation tough times.
And now, over a decade and a half later, I’m still not a particularly masculine man in a standard ass cishet marriage with a kid. And I’m happy and comfortable in my identity.
So I have a tough time hearing this repeated narrative of “there’s no downsides!”
I think, though, some people are too eager to throw out what they think is a reality check. Like in the post above, some are terrified of letting other trans people suffer (rightfully so), so they paint with too broad a brush and insist that someone must simply be in denial. I watched MLP, I like cute art and flowers and scented candles, and make female characters in video games because they get better fashion options. Does that mean I’m trans and denying it? No, it doesn’t.
It’s a delicate topic, and I won’t deny that there is a lot of stigma and social momentum against having these kinds of honest conversations about oneself. I’m just afraid that young people who are still trying to figure out who they are might get the wrong idea about themselves if people keep insisting that because you might like the color pink you must therefore be trans.
I watched MLP with my daughters. I’ve come to the conclusion that the show is basically Star Trek: TNG for little girls, complete with Q. It really is surprisingly good, despite the frilly aesthetic.
That is . . . Distressingly accurate.
The prime directive doesn’t apply to you. You already questioned your gender and found the truth. In Star Trek terms, you’re a warp-capable society. Even if you decided to stay on your home planet.
The egg prime directive is, according to the name, about hiding information from people who haven’t thought about it.
The cost of misgendering a cis person is that they feel weird. The cost of maintaining the prime directive for an egg is they might commit suicide.
Let’s be clear that is an assumption. I understand that there is a shit ton of fake astroturfing going on, but not every single story of detransistioning is lies.
For a more personal experience point to this:
When I was a teen, transness wasn’t really talked about, so a cis male being un-masculine “had to” mean they were gay.
Cards on the table, I’m bisexual. But only for a single digit number of men. I’m effectively cishet.
But with how many times I heard that I must be gay, from bullies, from well meaning folks, from strangers… it added significant additional turmoil to my toughest times as a teen. Suicidal ideation tough times.
And now, over a decade and a half later, I’m still not a particularly masculine man in a standard ass cishet marriage with a kid. And I’m happy and comfortable in my identity.
So I have a tough time hearing this repeated narrative of “there’s no downsides!”