Edit: because a few comments make me worry that some are taking this seriously - this meme is a play on the type of hopeless dating posts you might find in less healthy corners of the internet. The joke is a suggestion that the real problem is that one man in the image has some sort of arrow-attracting superpower.
This graph is so wrong in so many ways…
Dating is hard because we live miserable lifes, are very individualized by capitalism, deposit lots of expectations and pities of ourselves into others, and don’t treasure (intimate) friendship enough, intergender and intergenerational friendship included.
The “average guy” has poor emotional skills, is depressed, has no real friends and thinks that a girlfriend will be his salvation. The “average guy” needs therapy, friends, needs to learn to listen, to empathise and to show his own vulnerability instead of hiding and pretending to be a rock. That is, learn to take care of himself and to take care of others, and value this as an unavoidable adult skill. The “guy who attracts arrows” probably needs the same, but has a higher sexual capital because of birth lottery.
Focus on making some sense of your own life first and interesting people will start popping out, you will make some friends, and at some point you will mate someone.
Marriage and the nuclear family is a product of the Catholic church teaming up with capitalism. Western history and non-western world is full of extended families and communities. Consider not making it your life goal, it can be disappointing to achieve it.
Sir, this is a Wendy’s
what is a Wendy’s? edit: i see that it’s a USA fast food chain with decreasing international success. Did you mean that it’s a local, low quality, fast joke?
This phrase is a meme used when someone goes into serious philosophy in an unserious situation.
It references a scene with someone telling a long expertly phrased opinion to a fast food employee while in the line to order. Not sure which show it comes from, someone mentioned Rick and Morty in another comment.
thank you! :)
Watch Rick and Morty for the reference.
It’s from The Office, not Rick & Morty
This was a joke
jokes work on shared assumptions. This joke is political imho, and trying to avoid it saying that “this was a joke” when it doesn’t criticize these hetersexist assumptions, for me, it strengthens them.
This graphic is making fun of the man-o-sphere bullshit idea that all women are only attracted to “alpha males,” my dude. You’ve totally missed the mark
No, it’s not. It’s based on these two things
The latter especially has this widely-misquoted line:
Many people understood it as “80% of women go for 20% of guys”, but that’s not what it’s saying.
If you also look at the first article, it has many graphs which speak for themselves
One might argue the data derived from Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge users who also upload their data to Swipestats.io is unlikely to be representative of the general population
One could argue it’s a meme.
Yeah, that was me, a few comments above lmao
Well, I’m happy that this isn’t incel shit. And I am happy not to be so exposed to it regularly. To me, it looks way too inside their mental codes, still can’t find it funny, but anyway. Thanks for the patience
I agree with you. Some people will see this as confirmation that women all are attracted to the same guy implying the same doesn’t happen with men too. It’s worth pointing out the opposite is true. Guys of all ages fawn after the 19-24 year old, conventionally attractive women, too.
Which is true. But! Men <30 years old usually are more tolerant in what they accept. They’ll take almost any woman 18-30 years, low or high income, fat or skinny, beautiful or ugly, etc.
Women below 30 years age on the other hand often are fixated on 6-6-6 rule (6+ foot height, 6 digits income, 6 pack) which are like the top 1% of the male population. Once they are older and want to ‘settle down’ they won’t get any of these top guys because these guys can cherrypick their women. And then the women are disappointed by the ‘left-overs’. I’m not an incel but I can understand why it (sometimes? often?) happens this way.
How to solve this? No idea.
How did couple come together 100 years ago? What did they do different back then?
It could be true, but maybe not. If we are talking about dating, sure. Men are more likely to swipe right on women than the other way around. But how about marriage or longer term relationships? If you were 18, would you be willing to marry a poor, fat, ugly 29-year-old “independent” women who smokes with kids?
Some guys would do that because they know they won’t have a chance to get a ‘better’ woman.
The problem is women and men are different and they treat each other differently.
No man would would push down a young beautiful woman from the edge of a bed. Women notice that and are flattered that they are wanted so much. Honestly women only need not to be obese and the guys will line up. But that’s only true for young woman. After 30-35-year-old most women beauty diminish rapidly.
Men on the other hand age visibly slowly. A lot of women still judge them handsome when the guys are already 40 or 50 years old. (There are of course ugly 40 and 50 years old.) But young men are more often only playthings and only the 6-6-6 ones have a good shot a being choosy.
You have a lot of rules in your head that don’t exist. Where did you learn these things? As a 40-something man who has lived a lot of life, nothing you’re saying here lines up with my observations of reality
I’m also 40-something and I see all that stuff around me. It’s hard not to notice. All the (6) colleagues in my office room are divorced and in most cases the (ex-)wife is the reason. And when I see the other women… there aren’t a lot of good choices.