My thoughts is that it’s a simple situation really. If they’re harassing or assaulting people, the women will call the cops or something, simple situation and get the guy arrested. If he’s not doing anything, it’s nothing harmful. Apparently that’s not a solid enough answer. What should I have said?

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    I am a straight guy and I have used a woman’s restroom.

    But only in the context that it was a single restroom and the men’s was occupied. I just unilaterally executed my male privilege and declared that the woman’s restroom was unisex for the time period that I needed it.

    There was nobody else in the room and if there had been first the door would have been locked or I would have been absolutely mortified.

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      This was super common in college dorms as well. The etiquette was that if your hookup or friend was using the bathroom on your floor you were supposed to stand outside and let people know about it. You know, informed consent and all. Absolutely zero people ever gave a shit.

      The entire fear kind of makes me assume that all conservatives are just opportunistic rapists who are kept in check my the thinnest veneer of social order.

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        Are single-sex dorms a thing over there? Ours were always mixed with unisex bathrooms - stalls for everyone.

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          They tended to be segregated by floor at that time. So you’d have a men’s or women’s room on every other floor. There were also still a few women’s only dorms, but my experience with those was basically the same. Nobody is leaving the building just to take a piss.

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        The question I get asked by religious people all the time is, without God, what’s to stop me from raping all I want?

        And my answer is: I do rape all I want. And the amount I want is zero. And I do murder all I want, and the amount I want is zero.

        The fact that these people think that if they didn’t have this person watching over them that they would go on killing, raping rampages is the most self-damning thing I can imagine.

        I don’t want to do that. Right now, without any god, I don’t want to jump across this table and strangle you. I have no desire to strangle you. I have no desire to flip you over and rape you.

        -Penn Jillette

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      The amount of times I as a straight cis man have had to go in the women’s room for a changing table for my child is unacceptable