• LouNeko@lemmy.world
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    4 months ago

    The secret to having a great friendship, is to not make your problems, theirs.

    • Mrs_deWinter@feddit.org
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      4 months ago

      Doesn’t sound like a friendship to me. More like an acquaintance.

      I want to know what’s up in my friends lives. I want them to tell me if they’ve got problems. I love them. I want to be there for them, and I want them to listen to me if I need it once. Otherwise, what’s the point?

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        4 months ago

        I’m with you. Also, it’s not clear to me why people think listening to your friends means you suddenly are responsible for their problems. You don’t have to take on their burden, but you can listen, maybe offer advice, and empathize. You don’t need to solve their problem.

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      4 months ago

      The secret of having great friendship is to tell your friend about your life but don’t expect more than listening and to ask your friend about their life and try to help them the best of your ability.