I know most people that were on reddit at the time are fully aware of this and won’t be surprised but don’t dismiss the findings out of hand. It’s important that studies are being conducted and the fact that the finding match our lived experience is still noteworthy.
the f-slur can’t be reclaimed for me, personally, I’m happy for those who do reclaim it but its just too painful as it’s what I got called when I was badly hurt and was worried I would die as a 12 year old.
However, those who do reclaim it then use it around me, which just makes me think about what happened - involuntarily - and ruins my day (or part of it).
It’s also tricky being a bi man in a het relationship in this regard, as if someone knows that it’s hard to overcome their feelings that due to my partners existence, I now no longer have a say in these matters.